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ARKANSAS CATHOLIC AUGUST 19, 1990 t "Curtain ' from 2 page ]| nages would sort out today. Co! The seven that reported a decline in ' Dear itor: Imarital satisfaction during the years of I would like to commend you and Child rearin dovetail with most studies the staff of Arkansas Catholic for ro- t0, g P pp This pattern may suggest why the more! I am currently studying at Notre ,empty nest is not so traumatic as it has Dame, and the library here receives )s ng been held to be. After the worri- Catholic papers from across the coun- 0.rae and wearing adolescent years, try. Even many of those representing tWMch can cause tension and confict regions larger than the Diocese of Little uetween husband and wife, the couple Rock are lacking in content and vitality otten rediscovers the joy of marriage in comparison with the Arkansas Content and vitality and many partners report their union more enjoyable than ever because ey have more history to share. th COmes through most strongly, 0Ugh, is that the satisfied couples resolved the fundamental tension in Crumbs and gravy Marital satisfaction de- clines with the birth of the .first child to the nest-leav- . the last. Women absent re ationship, autonomy versus merger " 0y ,~.~. ,L s vmg each other the right to be . emselves while simultaneously being Part of a couple Mail- o " ._ Y y ung couples don't under- md that .L -, . racy can nave a happy mar- ii .e even though they may be very d erentpersons if they can accept their rences. They spend a lifetime tryin ,l.Change the other partner instead of ~anging their own reaction to the , e_r's differences. " Uples can a ree to disam'ee with not ave . be healthy But thev do have to able to - /', ,,- " h, ~ccept flilmrences. sn,,.'v''re funny p'eoDle. We freely choose ~"2he unlike us and then proceed W :.Y to make them like us. It rarely t e?;dASk those 17 couples. They dis- C that fact 50-some years ago. I ght 1990 Alt Publishing Co. Catholic. Thank you for producing a publication so full of life and compas- sion and for tackling head-on the is- sues of violence and injustice that chal- lenge our faith and call for a response. Elizabeth Groppe Sniegocki South Bend, IN Dear Editor: Recently I read in the Arkansas Catholic Bishop McDonald's account of a retreat or gathering of American bishops. What struck me was the ab- sence of any women speakers. There was a variety of topics discussed and presented, but only half of the human race was represented! What does this tell us about the Catholic Church and women? Sr. M. Julia Burkart, MMS ASU, Jonesboro Suffer the children... Dear Editor Regarding your story [7/29] relating to the handling of the priests and brothers who were accused of molest- ing children at a Catholic orphanage, the Church suffers from this incident and the many similar incidents recently appearing in the lay press. We need to be more concerned about how these children suffer. As a mother, should one these "religious" violate my child, I would not stop in my search for justice until the man was disarmed surgically, if not terminally. The old idea that "boys will be boys" and the slap on the wrist meted out by our judicial systems simply does not compensate for the trauma dumped on these children by these men of God. If ever there was justification for the death penalty, the molesting of children by ordained religious leaders should be dealt this sentence. R. M. Sussex Pocatello, ID Dear Editor: The Southern Cross is part of the Heavens one can see at night here Last night, unable to sleep because of the sounds of the 15 others, sleeping as I was, in the sacristy of the mountain chapel, I gazed at the clear sky think- ing of the intense several days of mis- sions to these villages,the packed chapels, the long lines of barefeet women, many carrying infants with them as they came to confess Having walked several hours myself to arrive at the Chapels, I could appreciate the "penance" these people do daily, just to survive. And many do not, especially the babies, an extraordinarily large percentage of whom never reach age five because Of malnutrition and easily preventable diseases. And of those who do reach school age, only three percent reach the 5th grade since they have to drop out to work to help their family Rare to have anyone confess seeking or inducing an abortion, because it's abhorrent to most of these women. The sight of the constellations re- minded me of that tone poem popular in the 1950s: Victory At Sea, with one number entitled: "Beneath The South- ern Cross." For older U.S. Navy hands, I suspect the music has special meaning, recalling memorable time spent at sea during World War II. Are these the same American Catholics who today provide the political support for such monstrosities as the USS George Wash- ington, the $3 billion nuclear aircraft carrier recently launched at Newport News, RI? If so, I would ask them to consider what $3 billion could do to benefit poor humanity in this part of the world. Not that the U.S. is totally absent here. Indeed, hardly two miles from the chapel where I confessed is a beautiful two room schoolhouse built by U.S. Aid For Development But the amount of this aid is piddling compared to the cost Of the George Washington. The "Navy gets the gravy" while the be- loved poor of the Lord get the crumbs. Crumbs don't nourish, bread does. If readers want to repent for the $3 bil- lion spent on the USS George Wash- ington, I'm ready to hear their confes- sion and will recommend for penance their joining Bread for the World [802 Rhode Island Ave, NE, Washington, D.C. 20018], and making sure their U.S. Congressperson endorses "rhe Harvest of Peace Resolution," a legislative weapon to torpedo nostalgic drains on the Federal budget such as the USS George Washington before the keel is laid, freeing resources to produce a healthier human stock, and accumulat- ing a heavenly bank account for those who do this work of mercy. At the same time it will produce Gospel Tone Po- ems, and the real victory that we seek (Rev.) Bernard Survil Guatemala An unlived lift B lI [P I.., 0 It I tl (I Fr. John Dietzen married in the was left with four children, no live. depended family for food Children Way was money to for an even Wanted to, to have the Church say she @IIit was never married would be the same as telling her children they were illegiti- mate. There is really no difference between divorce and annulment and some day the Church will realize this as we lay people do. I will not attempt again to respond to your final sentence now. The subject has been dealt with numerous times in this column. Two points related to the rest of your question probably need to be repeated. First, no one in our country to my knowledge has ever been denied access to the Church's annulment process because of a lack of money. Some fees are always requested to help defray the considerable expense &IWII of such a procedure, but every tribunal with which I am acquainted has ac- cepted cases in which the petitioner is unable to afford even a minimal contri- bution toward the costs. I am aware that sometimes certain parish priests are reluctant to accept the work involved in annulments, and cite huge costs to discourage possible petitioners. But tribunals and bishops are anxious to help, whether or not fee payment is possible. In many, perhaps most, dioceses parishes are encouraged to pay these fees if the individual cannot. Second, if an annulment is granted, children of the marriage are not con- sidered illegitimate, either in Church law or civil law. Dear Editor: We find the letters [to the editor, [7/29] dealing with the death penalty appallingI How can you compare the unlived life ofan infant in the womb to that of a murderer? No, the babe who never had a chance is not the same as a murderer. Ruth and Newt Foster Harrison Share your point of view with our readers in: IB't IPI f I'i1" Columns should be about 500 words and address a single topic. ARKANSAS CATHOLIC