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JULY 16, 1982 A Smile I Remember IT WAS in about the year 1958. I was substituting for a parish priest and was making the rounds of patients in the hospital. One of the patients was a Catholic man who had been calling for a priest, but his wife had flatly refused the priest entry into the room. The pastor had advised me of this and told me that he had given this man to his mother as a prayer assignment and he felt that through her prayers, an opportunity would arise for ministering to the man. And so it was. When I came by, the man's wife had gone out for a short while. However, by now the man was in a deep coma. His face was impassive, his eyes blank and the nurse could get no response. I decided to go ahead with absolution and anointing. As I said the Latin words of absolution, "Ego absolvo te," a big smile swept across his face and his face relaxed, though there was no further change in his coma condition. After anointing him, I left and a few hours later he was dead. The nurse later told me that he still wore the look of peace. Provide For Your By Father David Flusche, Somehow going beyond the numbness of all his senses, the sacrament had reached into the depths of his spirit and arose from there to his face. His wife made her own arrangements for his funeral elsewhere, but that was irrelevant. ANYWAY, THAT left me thinking that the best smiles are those that come from the depths -- like the smiles that can come to a husband's and wife's faces when they catch one another's eyes even when nothing on the surface would seem to have evoked a smile. Or when a parent and small child look at one another. Deep smiles shine when they rise to the surface and they leave an afterglow, so they are the best kind. But surface smiles are good, too: the smile of thanks, the smile of a shared moment or thought, the smile of recognition. However, these are difficult when there is no internal smile within the person. THE ONLY poor smile is the pasted-on smile which has Loved Ones in Your Will New Subiaco Abbey no depth and no sharing. It flashes for a moment, like the smile of the man in the coma, but then the face falls back into numbness, unlike the comatose man's face which grew softer and more relaxed. Perhaps we could think about our smiles. There should be some deep smiles in each of us. Love certainly is the foundation of such a smile, but so is faith and hope. When these smiles are deep within Us, they rise readily to become the surface smiles that mean so much to one another. We owe this smile not only to others but also to ourselves. If the best we can manage is an occasional pasted-on smile, the problem is not with out facial muscles, but with our heart. BUT REAL smiles too are sometimes the matter of someone else's permission. The husband and wife, by the manner in which they speak to one another, give or deny each other permission to smile. It's the same with children and parents, pastor and congregation, co- But Remember O.B. workers, fellow religious and SO on. The man had a deep smile of faith within him, but his wife would not let it arise. In her absence, the sacrament of absolution caused it to break free. It is sad when we make others lock their smiles up inside themselves and it is good when we so treat one another that the smiles can take form and rise to the surface. Nuns Ask Nuclear Freeze Cottonwood, Idaho -- Four Sisters from St. Scholastica Convent, Fort Smith, Ark., were among 49 delegates from 15 Benedictine priories who recently met here and adopted a resolution to join the national call for a nuclear freeze and a reduction in arms. Copies of the resolution were sent to President Reagan, Secretary Haig, Secretary Weinberger, Congresspersons and Prime Minister Pierre E. Trudeau of Canada. Representing 1600 Benedictine Sisters, these delegates were gathered for the biennial General Chapter of the Federation of St. Gertrude the Great June 20- 25. Sister Anselm Ham- merling of Winnipeg, Canada, presided at the four-day conference. Present from St. Scholastica were Sister Mary Hawkins, prioress, Sister Columba Walter, Federation Councilor, and Sisters Nor- bert Hoelting and Rachel Dietz, community delegates. "Seek after Peace and pursue it," a mandate from the Rule of St. Benedict, was the theme of the sessions. Key speakers who addressed the issues affecting con- temporary Benedictine life were Abbot Primate Victor Dolores Curran Talks With Parents Family Navigator FOR A LOT OF YEARS whenever our family traveled more than fifty miles at one stretch, I served as navigator. It was all in the right order of things. Jim, as husband, drove, and I, as tender nur- turing wife and mother, did everything else. This included changing diapers on the in- terstate as the car whipped in and out of lanes at the then-65 m.p.h, speed limit. It also included ,stopping fights, keeping the children happy, reading books and maps, cleaning up crumbs and other foreign matter in the container called the family car, and offering back rubs and sympathy to the driver who was, after all, suffering the harrowing trauma of getting us there. THEN ONE DAY I drove and life on our trips changed irrevocably forevermore. I discovered the joy of saying, "Will you please keep the kids quiet?" and "I think Jeremy needs changing." It was a glorious discovery. To me. To Jim, it was akin to the time the kids first tasted white meat. No matter how much we continued to extol the virtues of thighs and backs, they had tasted and seen. Being family navigator is an experience for every adult to be truly whole if not sane. In an attempt to delineate duties for those who have escaped this particular sort of Lent, let me elaborate. i. THE NAVIGATOR is responsible for reading the maps. This seemingly simple task is enlivened by being expected to know well in advance which highways suddenly divide, which roads are temporarily closed and which lanes should be gotten into when. To mind comes Washington D. C., a city in which one must get into the proper lane when leaving the driveway, no matter how distant the destination. I recall my in- tense concentration with Jim and map over the breakfast table before leaving to visit the Smithsonian. by U f'( RUNNEI said, twirling theLos Ange trusting my seethe futm tion, which becally adv whenever I lostnd co tains on the Ford I daughter, then a modeled quipped. "Annest priw secondary route.ies, wh And secondarySS and tr battling one-wa' hunting turns for nearlyof "re spied a sign tll almo Vernon and we ble froz day's itinerary o6) want h Several yearsters. H trying to read a nnore co: as Jim tried to iis in lovq left side of the n advan( right side of the tt know up in panic to sd Scan Y driver keeping ti stunni the freeway. -wlHampt shouted, reopte "Trinity Colleg direc back. to fa "Step right," n an a And the whole l.n! in. pathetic DublF mum marked time asUgg ishne right. Jim ga wever, sympathy while P m pr Turns. Jutch acl outstand 2. TIlE NAVlleUnlo responsible for f . and harmony in t, has. cl might be best dz. enswe living in the bat =we vio the children. Bo ture As read. Interestin[ ratinl must be pointed' whose only cone. long to the motel OR[iE n must be offered '$ " - :;;:d dl tere nf i!g: t t And most pivo e fr ' pressio must not be allw h,s a "' h e-look ed( a t isealdh frontation. NaVlhe other words, mu r me which means jseems ."The ultimately be -0th C ruining the trip. t withou I've learned t a loo better way. It . to so sharing the drivlk , ,nat it di navigating. 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