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-BNOW YOUB FAITH Sponsored By Arkansas State Council Knights of Columbus b Parishes Find pe 'ope, tl fan on the an sext ct th{ des of tl Popeeil Parent ting, ] ng n BLESSED Ig woh Roman Catholic ance."t Emmanuel, a "proEpiscopal parish, ; metba six-week joint plannbservance, en t persian high in both s exist,ns. hureh %ctions included: lar mekus experience;" plannio it again; .... Why ) procllited so long to do les andhing?" ayer groups and gh thgroups formed the I farn the program. ed the lhe groups were y meafintended to give individa t holic and Rimon)an members a ; who lnten experience, nce of proved to be a generol forum for ere is! dialogue. ty, to tan, a member of led us l, summed up her hich t this way: "I neVer knowin t h a t w e ns and Catholics :h in common. Pro Di, dogue Clears the Air, Leads to Understanding some years ago. siderable aid, too, in helping During one of our many to understand better one's informal conversations about own position or point of view. the Christian faith, some of It often has been said by the other students there ex- teachers that you don't really pressed surprise to learn what understand something until Catholics really do say about you attempt to teach it. the Virgin Mary, an aspect of Through the process of Catholicism that had been dialogue, we are forced to somewhat misunderstood. To think through and clarify our my chagrin, I discovered that own position in order I held some faulty conceptions adequately to explain it to of their beliefs as well. others. As the Blessed Sacrament- This is a healthy and helpful E m m a n u e I p r o g r a m exercise which sometimes illustrated, dialogue also can enable us to discover serves to surface the points blind spots in our own un- that are in agreement bet- derstanding, areas in need of ween two parties. Although our attention. Christians have been divided for centur,es, it was only in Dialogue is not always easy. communication, has been the source of considerable human suffering throughout history. Dialogue -- the constructive and peaceful exchanges between two parties -- is a virtual necessity of life, particularly for us who live in a society that is highly varied in its ethnic, cultural and religious make-up. Dialogue is important for helping to resolve or diminish the conflicts that naturally arise in the give and take of daily living. The failure to dialogue can lead to misun- derstanding, discord and even to hostility. Effective dialogue can sort out the issues between op- posing viewpoints. Not in- the past several decades, with frequently, dialogue helps to the advent of the ecumenical surface and clear up misconceptions of one side about the other. THAT POINT was driven home to me when, as an ex- change student, I spent some time at a Protestant seminary If it were, I suppose we would use it more, thus sparing movement, that Catholics and ourselves a lot of trouble in Protestants began to discover many areas of life. through dialogue that they For one thing, dialogue held far more in common than requires a certain strength of they had ever begun to character that allows us realize, judiciously to hear what others have to say. This is not DIALOGUE IS a con- easy to do, especially when Family's Experience -- FORTUNATE to m pthg e when religious ,n City,accep ted and even ul II N ut this was not ',toristthe case! Un-Teaches Hard Lesson called in to talk with her son's high school adviser. ho,', religious strife, '7-r%L,v-ined (among other :1 its c e lack of adequate es lis ,nt of 1. 1 papal ! o mer permanent lifell d in a r ogram. Pfab mt ,xus Life',, .'ou,,gl g enerl .... I By Katharine Bird RECENTLY, I was startled to find myself considering the value of dialogue from a fresh perspective while listening to the experience of a friend whom I'll call Anne Carey. I met Anne when she moved to the Washington, D. C., area a couple of years ago in discovered her talented son search of a more satisfying was skipping school and career. Her children are 17- spending most of his time with year-old Bruce, who attends a high school dropouts. public high school, and 19- For some time, with the year-old Rebecca, a sympathetic support of her sophomore in college, daughter, Anne struggled Somewhat overwhelmed at alone with herson, urging him first with trying to adjust to a large cosmopolitan area, Anne didn't notice that her usually cheerful son was becoming withdrawn and unhappy. In fact, she didn't realize that anything was seriously amiss until she was ERRY COOKE , NLR 753-4326 perhaps following her cue, had learned to retreat into himself rather than explain W I T H I N C R E A S I N G how he was feeling or why he dismay, Anne listened as the was acting the way he was. adviser explained that Bruce Slowly, over several months was in danger of flunking and with a great deal of several classes because he painful effort, Anne and her was not keeping up with the children learned to corn- assigned work. Worse, she municate more honestly with each other. Somewhat ruefully, my friend explained that a kind of climax was reached late one night when she and her son lost their tempers and ex- changed angry comments. Later the same night, she to see that he might regret his added, after both cooled present behavior in years to down, they made it a point to come. And it seemed for a sit down together to talk. Now while that he was responding they were surprised to find and taking more interest in that they began to com- his studies, municate befter. And they But then his semester were able to go on to some report card convinced her new understandings of each more drastic action was other in areas important to necessary. My friend called both of them, even though her pastor and asked for the they still didn't agree on name of a professional every point. Little Rock Guide counselor. Next, she insisted that Bruce meet with the LISTENING to my friend, it psychiatric social worker on a occurred to me that what was Shoe Store iEDFOllD HUG STORE regular basis, happening in this family could Center Rexall be applied in other areas too. |.,..tmv,,c-wr, C.B. Wright- T.E. Mattax THE COUNSELOR, as part For learning to communicate PHARMACISTS of his treatment, asked Anne openly and honestly with onday thru Saturday .m.-6 Phone 374-4926 and Rebecca to take part in others is a key ingredient in Center-NtR 9i5 EAST NINTil STREET one session each month. For relationships, whether in a Anne, the joint family ses- family or elsewhere. sions were both agonizing and But, as my friend's ex- illuminating, especially in perience demonstrates so Point terms of what she discovered well, the task is filled with about herself, obstacles. Perhaps the first Tools Under the expert tutelage of step in communicating with the counselor, Anne and her people involves being willing Wire children slowly began to to meet without hostility or realize they had fallen into fear, in an atmosphere of thing in Hardware" some less than constructive openness and good will. In the ways of dealing with each hard task of learning to communicate, people need to the see something more than that counselor prodded the family which separates them, to find more a common starting point. At the same time, it is kept comforting to realize that real reminding them. "There is no understanding can develop how over time if we persevere with dialogue. 1982 NC News Service much she disliked some of his Bruce, ELECTED PREXY Denver (NC) - Atonement Father Paul Ojibway, a campus and young adult minister in Los Angeles, has been elected president of the newly-establisbed National Catholic Young Adult Ministry Association. lse IkRDWARE CO" I 0 .other counselo prod 1 the ! )ver /t 753-2470 [ ]p" Ph0ne 753-6161 Again and again, care  1012W.34th | and arth Little Rck I 4214 MacArthur Drive to communicate directly. "'You've got to talk to each other, he cep ivisi North Little Rock, Ark. " t iii other way to know how , cost  I m AlE m C01' [ I reminding them. "There s no vm00E D another person is feeling." He I C ] | Upholstery $ Driperies I repeatedly encouraged them 2e.l'|tll|(:V, I'{:. I "/' . LARGE " t keep talking with each lid dneyprham " J /(..,OFFABRICS ring. J'l ..The Shop GRADUALLY my friend I o+Quamy'" came to how much she [lW:a 7  I  372&4N hated confrontation and herA've: !  I angry scenes. Therefore, she 1;7:o_  |V J UPHOLSTERING never had told her son how ntCenter[-[' - | 2204 West10th St. muchs: dis] edso Little Rock friends and why. our emotions are involved or when we have strong opinions on a subject. DIALOGUE IS not an ad- versary activity either. There are no winners or losers. It is not a contest. In dialogue, understanding and learning are goals. Another reason that dialogue is difficult is that it requires active, careful listening, something we are not easily disposed to do. Often it happens, in discussions involving dif- ferences of opinion, that we are so busy either formulating responses to what has been said or constructing our own position, that we don't really hear what the other person is saying. Despite these difficulties, dialogue is one of the highest forms of human com- munication. It embarks people on an exhilarating journey toward unity and harmony. It is a way in which we can actively play a role in making Christ's words a reality: That we may be one as he and the Father are one. 1982 NC News Service RETREATS - JULY-DECEMBER, 1982 RETREATS: Renewing One's Relationship with God, Our Father through the Word - Our Saviour, Jesus Christ. THE ABBEY RETREAT, COURY HOUSE Subiaco, Arkansas 72865 PROGRAMS OFFERED: MEN August 20- 22 Mens' Retreat, Open to All Men .WOMEN October I - 3 Women's Retreat, Open To All Women Oetobe.r 8 - 10 Tri-County Alter Societies- Bigelow Area COUPLES July 16 - 18 Marriage Encounter, Subiaco #27 August 6 - 8 Couples' Retreat, Open To All Couples November 12 - 14 Marriage Encounter, Subiaco #28 FAMILY July 23 - 25 Family Retreat, Open To All Families MIXED July 30 - Aug. 1 Legion of Mary of Arkansas Retreat October 22 - 24 Cirsillistas of Memphis Retreat November 5 - "/ Parents' Weekend, Subiaco Academy November 20 - 21 Advisory Board Meeting, Abbey Retreat League PARISH St. Edward Parish, Texarkana September 10 = 12 Parishes of Hot Springs September 17 - 19 Immaculate Heat of Mary, Hot September 21 - 23 Springs Village Our Lady of Good Counsel Parish, September 24 - 26 Little Rock October 5 - 7 St. Peter's Parish, Mountain Home October 15 - 17 St. Joseph Parish, Fayetteville October 19 - 21 St. Peter's Parish, Mountain Home October 26- 28 St. Mary's Parish, Horseshoe Bend November 9 - 11 St. Michael's Parish, Hardy December 3- 5 Parishes of Eastern Arkansas RELIGIOUS & PRIESTS August 6 - 8 Christian Brothers Seminar August 10 - 17 Inter Community Sisters' Retreat OTHER CHRISTIAN TRADITIONS July 9 - 11 A.C.W.F., Disciples of Christ of Arkansas September 27 - 29 Arkansas Church in Community Seminar YOUTH August 3 - 5 St. Edward CYO, Texarkana GUIDELINES FOR WEEKEND RETREATS: Regular adult and youth Retreats begin Friday evening with 6:00 p.m. dinner and end about 3:00 p.m. on Sunday. It remains our custom to hold a "free-will" offering for adult Retreats. To cover our expenses of meals, rooms, and the Retreat, we suggest $38.00 per person and $70.00 per couple. For Retreatants requesting a private room we suggest that each give a little more. Charges for a youth Retreatant are $32.00 per person (youth and supervisors.) Private Retreats are encouraged, especially for religious and priests. IF INTERESTED, CALL OR FILL OUT THE ATTACHED COUPON AND SEND TO: THE ABBEY RETREAT SUBIACO, ARKANSAS 72865 PHONE: 501-934-4411 RETREAT DIRECTOR: REV. HERBERT VOGELPOHL, O.S.B. COUPON. Retreat Date Name Address City .State _ .Zip Telephone No. Parish Ad SPOnsored by the Abbey Retreat League Alicia Minden Classen, President