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PAGE 2 ARKANSAS CATHOLIC JUNE 17, He worked 7 - 5, five days a week and half a day on Saturday. After hours he worked in the garden 'ill dusk. Some- times after supper he was in his shop 'til 10. He did carpentry, plumbing and wiring. He raised the best vegetables in the county. When we were kids, we called him Daddy. We upgraded it to "Dad" when we were older. Dad made Christmas toys and planted watermelons, peanuts and popcorn for to enjoy. On Sunday afternoons, he took us on walks through the woods. German was his first language, but he knew the name of every bird and flower and tree. He taught us what he knew. There was one thing Dad couldn't do. He couldn't say "I love you." Six years after my ordination, a retreat master told us how important it is to say those words. I rehearsed how I would do it. Each time I lost my nerve. I am my father's son. I couldn't say the words, either. I was in Rome when I heard Dad was sick. I was in flight somewhere over the Atlantic when he died. The words "I love you" never passed between us. Memories of Dad's deeds of love have become more important to me since then. The grief over my lost opportu- nity has become a dying=rising experi- ence. My mute tongue has been freed to say the words of love. And the communion of saints has enabled me to say them, even to Dad. But the feel- ing of loss is still alive in me, especially on Father's Day. Preachers are not mpposed to say "Do as I say, not as I do." But say it I must. Fathers, tell your children you love them. Daughters, sons, tell your father you love him - before it's too late. AJS ARKANSAS CATHOLIC is putffmhed 48 tim~ a year, for $12 pe year, by the C~hoic Diocmm of Little Rock, A~ Calholic, Inc., 2500 N. Tyler St., l.l.~e Rock, AR 72207 (501) 884,-0340 FAX (501) 664-9075]. PUBUSHER: Most Rev. Andrew J. McOcmald, Bishop MANAGING EDITOR: Rmt. Albert J. Sd'metder EDITOR : Deborah Ill,an/ Aovrr.RTISING I MARKETING DIRECTOR : Rcm IL Hall PROOUC'nON MANAGER: Re,/. Jim CIRCULATION MANAGER : Agnes KniWg Third dm postage pe~d at L~ie Rock, AR. POSTMASTER : Send change of addrea to: ARKANSAS CATHOLIC, PO BOX 7417, LITTLE ROCK, AR 72217. Busi- ness hours are 8:30 to 4, Monday - Friday. Closed on weekends, Holy Da~, and National HoJdays. Offices are located in Morris Hall, St. John',= Center, 25~0 N. Tytero L~le Rock. AR, 72207. Name Address Parish How could a nice, Catholic kid from Clarksville come up with such radical ideas about success and freedom? It's not like he had been reared in one of those Third World places; his background is strictly Ozarks, apple pie and Chevrolet. He sure as heck never made much money, and he doesn't flit around in his own jet. So what could he know about success? A lot of people take him seriously, of course, just because of those books he wrote and all the stuff he's put in people's heads. Some of them even hold him up as some kind of role model. Whenmeasured against what most of us think about success and freedom, this fellow might be considered downright unAmerican by some. But to me, he's one of the most refreshing voices I've heard in a long time. Jerome Kodell is both a thinker and a doer, and I suspect he's discovered a lot of When was the last time you heard somebody talking about "the wisdom of the un- educated?" things the rest of us never took the time or had the will to think about, much less do. This sometimes organic strawberry grower definitely sees the world differently from most of us. Good grief, when was the last time you heard somebody talking about "the wisdom of the uneducated?" Jerome talks and believes stuff like that. He says he picked it up in Central Amer- ica. "In this country, people are trying to get ahead. Down there, people are trying to get along, and they're content when they do that." IIgWID()IIII Jack Moseley According to Jerome, Americans have a superiority complex and use technology to do the things they want done efficiently and expediently without regard to possible consequences. But in places like Be- lize, they think more about what they do in terms of protecting the qual- ity of life. 'There's the wisdom of the uneducated in the way they do things," he asserts. Jerome has this idea that we Americans let .society "pump stuff into our brains" about being successful in terms of power, mate- rial possessions and status. Sure, that's what it's all about, isn't it? Getting ahead, having things our parents couldn't afford. Free en- terprise. The American dream. Not at all, Jerome argues. "Success is doing what you really want to do in your heart. And that's hard for people to do. We get confused by" following other people's standards instead of what's in our hearts, what would really make us happy, success- ful and free. True freedom is doing what you really want to doe When I heard him say that, I figured the next words from his lips would be about how all people are really good. And sure enough, he said it, but he added a caution. 'This is a harder, more difficult time," Jer- ome explained. '~Ne're not as conscious of sin as we used to be, and that means sin has more control over us. Sin gets and we can end up thinking it's good.'] cited the movie '%Tall Street" where power broker asserts, "Greed is "People are tested daily because the the only creatures not progi'ammed way or another. They are flawed by sin. We're all in tween, and we can miss our if we make the wrong choices. We Jesus as an example, but we make our 0 choices." I should have known he'd bring in i religious stuff. That had to be from a monk, a priest and the Abb0V Subiaco Monastery in Logan County: Fr. Jerome probably is one of the truly successful, free and contented I have ever known. A Scril: graduate of the Pontifical Biblical in Rome who taught himself order to win admission, his latest bo01C Catholic Bible Study Handbook. But he's also one of those Ozark who too often gets overlooked of us who live here start looking for perts. We always tend to seek wisdom of well-known, people. Fr. Jerome is a constant of what we have in our own backyard, I'm convinced this Subiaco who has returned to his old school tour of duty in Belize witJ: Order, could have the big car, house, wealth and all that things if he had chosen to have Frankly, I'm glad he made and so are thousands of peoF he has touched with his personal and freedom. ..... (Jack Moseley is editor of the Times Record in Fort p,'mission.) Dolores Cu ran Who suffers more from the empty nest, dad or mom? In a study of 50 families in which at least one child had moved away from home, it was the fathers who suffered the greatest sense of loss. Dr. Clifton Barber, a profes- sor at Colorado State University, explained that while none of the mothers studied expressed a sense of regret, 25-30 percent of the fathers, ranging in age from 48 to 70, did. We've all heard about empty nest mothers who supposedly lose their purpose and identity when the children leave home, but we've rarely focused on the fathers' reactions. Dr. Barber found that th~ fathers who suffered most were the ones who were gone the most when the children were younger. One dad who traveled said, q guess in the back of my mind I kind of ra- tionalized it and kept thinking that the Fathers with the fewest childrettY time would Come when I could spend most vulnerable to a sense more time with the kids. But I never the children left. So were did. All of a sudden they're gone. That's and those with a high degree what's really bad about seeing them go. tal dissatisfaction. I can't make up for it." See "Curran," + Preparation for Corpus Christi, Gelspolshelm, France.